First 3 gifts you must send to a newly diagnosed child

A wonderful child you know has just been diagnosed with cancer. Here is the first 3 gifts you must send to this child.

  • Get well card - a physical card carefully chosen for the age of the child and written with your own hand writing
  • Bunch of flowers – to decorate his/her hospital room or home and lift up the mood that went down with the shock of diagnosis
  • Cuddly toy – to hug and cuddle and to remind that you are there to give big hugs

Where to send the gifts?

The child will probably stay in the hospital for a few weeks for the first stage of the treatment. So, it would be good to send the gifts directly to the hospital if you cannot deliver them yourself. Sending gifts directly to the hospital room takes away the burden from the parents to carry stuff from home to the hospital.

First check with the hospital where the child is staying. Ask if they are accepting gifts for the patients, particularly the flowers. Some hospitals may not accept flowers in the wards. If they do, get the correct delivery address, ward name and the room number if possible.

If the hospital doesn’t accept flowers then send the flowers to home address and the rest to the hospital room.

Make sure that all the labels have the child’s name on them, not the parents. After all, the child is the priority at this stage.

Get well cards

Make sure that you choose the right card for the child’s age. We have seen cards sent to children which are actually meant for adults like landscapes or roses. No no no. For children, you must choose child friendly cards with bold colours.

The card is there to say “we are sorry to hear about your illness. We send you our warm loves with these bold colours to brighten up your room .“

Flowers

Choose your fresh bunches again with bold colours and big flowers heads. Stick to the simple flowers, preferably the ones with big heads.

No roses please. They are not for children. Also, choose long lasting ones. A typical bunch, if arranged suitably, should last about 10 days.

If you cannot send the flowers to the hospitals, then they are actually useless at home where nobody can enjoy the beauty of the flowers and benefit from them. If this is the case, then leave the flowers for the first homecoming period.

Cuddly toys

Every child has a favourite toy they would like to carry around. You should know that the cuddly toy you will send will be cuddled for a day or two and then will be put aside on the bed when the next one comes.

You must be thinking that “why should we then send a cuddly toy? What’s the point?”
There is only one reason why you should send a cuddly toy – to put a cheerful smile on the child’s face under the difficult circumstances, no matter what the age of the child is.

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WHY?

Why in my brain?
It caused me so much pain.
Why in my head?
Perhaps somewhere else instead.
Why in my brain?
We tried a fluid drain.

I just want to walk like you.
I’ve had enough now, haven’t you too?

Poem from Sophie Pollock who lost her battle with cancer in 2007.

Things you can do on Difficult Days

Talk about the child who has died.
Write a letter to him/her.
Eat his/her favourite food.
Watch a video of him/her.
Wear one of his/her clothes like a scarf.
Light a candle.
Look at photos.
Listen to his/her favourite music.
Visit the grave.
Cry, laugh, scream.
Release a balloon with a message.

Some tips for parents and siblings.

What’s the Point?

What’s the point of eyes,
If you’re not here to see?
What’s the point of ears,
If you cannot hear me?
Every sense on my body,
Useless as a broken toy,
What’s the point of beauty,
If you cannot enjoy?

Cry of a parent - by JK.